HOW ASSERTIVE YOU ARE ?????
Assertiveness plays a very important role in every ones life be it professional or personal. Being assertive is an art and tuning yourself to this is like changing your lifestyle.To do that you should know how assertive you are, try answering the questions below to see how assertive you are and in the process you will find out whether you are assertive or aggressive.
This questionnaire attempts to measure the manner in which people behave in various day to day situations. Each item presents a situation along with a possible reaction to it. You are required to show how often the given reaction is true of your behaviour. Give your response in a 5 point scale. The scale represents the following categories.
Always -5
Assertiveness plays a very important role in every ones life be it professional or personal. Being assertive is an art and tuning yourself to this is like changing your lifestyle.To do that you should know how assertive you are, try answering the questions below to see how assertive you are and in the process you will find out whether you are assertive or aggressive.
This questionnaire attempts to measure the manner in which people behave in various day to day situations. Each item presents a situation along with a possible reaction to it. You are required to show how often the given reaction is true of your behaviour. Give your response in a 5 point scale. The scale represents the following categories.
Always -5
Often -4
Occasionally-3
Seldom -2
Never -1
1. You have set aside the evening to get some work done. Just as you started, some
friends dropped in for a social visit.
_____ You welcome them and postpone for the time being what you had planned to do.
2. You are standing in a line when someone pushes ahead of you
_____ You tell the person to get back in line behind you.
3. A friend or relative asks to borrow one of your essential items, but you would
prefer not to lend it to him.
_____ You lend it to him anyway.
4. A person who has kept you waiting for a long time arrived late for an appointment
_____ You seldom mind about it and act as if nothing has happened
5. Someone has, in your opinion treated you unfairly and incorrectly
_____ You confront the person directly concerning this.
6. Friends or neighbors fail to return some items they borrowed from you.
_____ You don’t feel free until they return them and be after them, if not returned
7. Others put pressure on you to drink what you dislike or eat too much
_____ You refuse to yield to their pressure
8. Another person interrupts you while you are speaking
_____ You wait until the other has finished speaking before you go on with your story.
9. You are asked to carry out a task that you do not feel like doing
_____ You tell the other that you do not want to do it.
10. Your friend has done something that you do not like
_____ You act as if nothing bothersome has happened
11. A salesperson has spent a great deal of time showing his merchandise but none of
it is exactly what you want.
_____ You buy some thing anyway.
12. You are invited to a party or other social event, which you would rather not attend.
_____ You accept the invitation.
13 In a concert or movie theatre a couple next to you distracts you with their
conversation
_____ You ask them to be quiet or move somewhere else
14. In a restaurant, you receive food that is poorly prepared
_____ You ask the waiter to replace it.
15. You receive incorrect or damaged merchandise from a store
_____ You immediately return the merchandise
16. A person who seems a lot worse of than you asks you for something you could
easily do but you don’t like to.
_____ You give the person what he / she wants
17. Someone gives you or asked for a negative appraisal of your behaviour
_____ You tell the other that you are not interested
18. Friends try to get information from you that you may consider personal
_____ After several insistence you give them the information only what you want.
Now have you answered all the questions?, be true to yourself do not have self pity and try to give answers to the above questions - you are the one who will not get a real feedback about yourself.
You can mail me your answers to my mail ID or post it under the comments. I'll tell you how aggressive or assertive you are..................
1. You have set aside the evening to get some work done. Just as you started, some
friends dropped in for a social visit.
_____ You welcome them and postpone for the time being what you had planned to do.
2. You are standing in a line when someone pushes ahead of you
_____ You tell the person to get back in line behind you.
3. A friend or relative asks to borrow one of your essential items, but you would
prefer not to lend it to him.
_____ You lend it to him anyway.
4. A person who has kept you waiting for a long time arrived late for an appointment
_____ You seldom mind about it and act as if nothing has happened
5. Someone has, in your opinion treated you unfairly and incorrectly
_____ You confront the person directly concerning this.
6. Friends or neighbors fail to return some items they borrowed from you.
_____ You don’t feel free until they return them and be after them, if not returned
7. Others put pressure on you to drink what you dislike or eat too much
_____ You refuse to yield to their pressure
8. Another person interrupts you while you are speaking
_____ You wait until the other has finished speaking before you go on with your story.
9. You are asked to carry out a task that you do not feel like doing
_____ You tell the other that you do not want to do it.
10. Your friend has done something that you do not like
_____ You act as if nothing bothersome has happened
11. A salesperson has spent a great deal of time showing his merchandise but none of
it is exactly what you want.
_____ You buy some thing anyway.
12. You are invited to a party or other social event, which you would rather not attend.
_____ You accept the invitation.
13 In a concert or movie theatre a couple next to you distracts you with their
conversation
_____ You ask them to be quiet or move somewhere else
14. In a restaurant, you receive food that is poorly prepared
_____ You ask the waiter to replace it.
15. You receive incorrect or damaged merchandise from a store
_____ You immediately return the merchandise
16. A person who seems a lot worse of than you asks you for something you could
easily do but you don’t like to.
_____ You give the person what he / she wants
17. Someone gives you or asked for a negative appraisal of your behaviour
_____ You tell the other that you are not interested
18. Friends try to get information from you that you may consider personal
_____ After several insistence you give them the information only what you want.
Now have you answered all the questions?, be true to yourself do not have self pity and try to give answers to the above questions - you are the one who will not get a real feedback about yourself.
You can mail me your answers to my mail ID or post it under the comments. I'll tell you how aggressive or assertive you are..................
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